As the holidays approach, Christmas aperitifs and celebrations also come closer. An etiquette expert explains what you should definitely pay attention to.
The most important thing in brief
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If you don't want to make any mistakes at Christmas, it can be difficult.
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An expert explains the most important etiquette rules for the Christmas season.
A real joy for some, a nerve-wracking challenge for others: the Christmas season brings with it numerous aperitifs and dinners.
But be careful! Whether in a professional or family environment, faux pas lurk everywhere.
Etiquette expert Susann Abplanalp explains how to find the balance between enjoyment and good etiquette.
The no-gos at the Christmas get-together
Anyone who talks about professional to-do lists at a company party is out of place. “It seems like you can’t switch off,” says Abplanalp.
And adds: “Or that you are not interested in people, but only in their work.”
It is just as unpleasant to gossip about colleagues or other people. “Gossiping has enormous potential for conflict and can ruin the evening.”
The etiquette expert adds: “Anyone who says goodbye immediately after eating conveys that the invitation was only taken as a mandatory appointment.”
And then there's the alcohol. “Free alcohol is not an invitation to get drunk,” warns Abplanalp.
This could have serious consequences, particularly in a professional environment. “It often happens that male superiors become abusive or aggressive after drinking too much alcohol. Such behavior guarantees a bad image – often even termination.”
There are also topics at family celebrations that should be avoided.
Abplanalp advises against spreading illnesses or health problems: “Indigestion, infections or chronic illnesses are rarely the topics of conversation that create a happy mood.”
This will make the evening a success
Was that also the case? Abplanalp gives clear advice: “Genuine interest in the other guests is the be-all and end-all.”
I find myself particularly popular with people who pick up on details from previous conversations and specifically ask about them.
“This creates connections and invites deeper conversations.”
The focus is on harmonious coexistence.
To do this, you should say a few personal words to the property. “It shouldn’t just be the people who are particularly close to you, but everyone in the room.” That shows appreciation.”
Abplanalp emphasizes: “Anyone who asks questions with interest, discovers similarities and has a positive attitude always leaves a lasting, good impression.”
And what is well received by the hosts? “They are grateful when the guests are happy and entertaining. Even if the somewhat quieter guests are also included in the conversations.”
In addition, hosts are happy to receive praise for the decoration, the atmosphere or the culinary details. Anyone who lends a hand and offers small help also shows gratitude.
In the end, the focus should not be on the food, but on the peaceful get-together.
